Courtship/Dating

[Muddy]

Being realistic adults here and agreeing that in order to truly get to know someone, a certain amount of time must pass (in other words, "if it feels right two weeks" is simply not an option), how long should a couple court before marriage?

[Cryren8972]

OK...if it feels right, three weeks. J/K.
Well...I've had a relationships where we "courted" for a year or two, then engaged for 2 years, and it still didn't work out.
I've also had the relationship that was whirlwind, and that didn't work either.
I don't know that there IS a right time. I do know that when it feels right, you'll know it.
It also depends on how much time you actually spend together too...a long distance relationship would take longer...

[Muddy]

OK...if it feels right, three weeks. J/K.

LOL!

How long have you and your boyfriend been seeing each other?

[Cryren8972]

We went to middle school together actually...
but didn't see each other for 25 years...I ran into him at a group meeting. We saw each other at the meetings for about six weeks...
started dating at that time.
Since then, it's been a little over 2 months.

[pctec]

OMG! 2 months without sex!
Did you at least set the wedding date yet? Cause after 2 months, I'd literally bust...

[Cryren8972]

Lol! No wedding date at the moment. We're taking things slow...

[Zap]

I'm the wrong person to ask about this, but I'm going to reply anyway because I think my situation is out of the ordinary.

My wife and I initially met online.
4 Months later, we met in person.
We were together for 8 days. In that 8 days, we knew we wanted to marry.
We each returned home and met again in 3 months and got married.
That was 8½ years ago and we're still together and doing well.
We have 2 beautiful kids together.


Previous to all this, I was married to another women and we had dated and lived together for 1½ years before getting married.
It was a disaster. The courtship lasted longer than the marriage. We imploded pretty quickly.

[iowadawg]

Courtship can take time, but for sure, you got to wait until the present wife/husband dies or divorced off.

hmmmm...12 years this month, met my wife for first time after a couple of months online and phone calls.
Went up to KCY and we knew before, but that sealed the deal for us to be together always.

[ewomack]

It's better to court as a group of 5 - 6 couples to make sure you've found the right one. Courtship between 10 - 12 people is a beautiful thing indeed.

[Halo]

My wife and I initially met online.


met my wife for first time after a couple of months online and phone calls.

The loving power of the internet. <3
Can I ask what sites you met your beloved on guys?

[Zap]

The loving power of the internet. <3
Can I ask what sites you met your beloved on guys?

I can't even remember the URL anymore, or if they are even still in business.
But the site I went to was specifically for dating.

[krisma5]

It also depends on how much time you actually spend together too...a long distance relationship would take longer...

Yeah, I can repeat that. My husband and I had a four year long distance relationship before we got married.The last two of them we were engaged but all four we were separated (physically). I only got to see him when my family came over here to Germany to visit family. Other than that we communicated over telephone and actual letters. :sqrolleyes:

[julien_simon]

how long should a couple court before marriage?

I thought Court was for divorce??

[iowadawg]

Court before marriage is to give the women a taste of how easy divorce court is for them.

IRC for wife and I.

[krisma5]

Divorce is only easy if you don't love your partner anymore.

[Cryren8972]

Divorce is only easy if you don't love your partner anymore.

This is the truth....=)

[ewomack]

I would have a hard time divorcing someone I love, yes...

[Muddy]

I would have a hard time divorcing someone I love, yes...

Me too. Especially if I was never married to them.

[ewomack]

Divorcing someone you're not married to is even trickier... but it has less of an emotional impact... but the look on the lawyer's faces are priceless...

[Rankenstein]

I'd say a year or so. Sorry, I have nothing amusing to add.